“A heart at it’s center at some point in life will be without center, sides, and substance when it’s centered existence becomes a ghost“. – ElReco Ramon – Ghost

“Sometimes that’s just the way it is”…

Sometimes it is real love and adoration and you both still love one another and that’s just the way it is.
Sometimes you both actually need and want the same exact thing but don’t even know it and that’s just the way it is.
Sometimes at the end of break ups there are unwinding thoughts and assumptions in the air, and unusual feelings in the heart and mind, and that’s just the way it is.
Sometimes the best closure is of no resolution and that’s just the way it is.
Sometimes 1 person loves the other person more than the other person loves them and that’s just the way it is.
Sometimes 1 person’s love is just different from the other person’s love and that’s just the way it is.
Sometimes you love one another the exact same, but you see things in life differently, and that’s just the way it is.
Sometimes timing is just so far off that it’s very difficult to meet somewhere neutral, and that’s just the way it is.
Sometimes one is afraid to jump with the other and that’s just the way it is.
Sometimes the pain of being together is worse than the pain of being lonely, and that’s just the way it is.
Sometimes a season is meant for only a season and that’s just the way it is.
Sometimes both individual’s purposes are neither better or worse than the others and neither right nor wrong and that’s just the way it is.
Sometimes you need “you“, more than you need or want somebody else, and that’s just the way it is.
Sometimes it would have been better off being friends instead of a romance type of relationship and that’s just the way it is.
Sometimes identity, gender, religion, upbringing, and other people are involved in the conclusion and that’s just the way it is.
Sometimes you can’t help who your heart loves and that’s just the way it is.
Sometimes we’re being prepared for “ourselves” and someone new and that’s just the way it is.
Sometimes it’s better to just feel the pain and let it ride through instead of relying on another substitute, drugs, or alcohol and that’s just the way it is.
Sometimes the pain is meant exclusively for “you” and only you so you can be stronger, and that’s just the way it is.
Sometimes peace will find you and God will meet you where you need to be met and that’s just the way it is.
Sometimes being without will allow the both of you to find God and He can then clean the both of you up and that’s just the way it is.
Sometimes you must let go all the way to see if it comes back the right way, and that’s just the way it is.
Sometimes it’s much better to say you have known love, than to not have at all, and that’s just the way it is.

“Sometimes the way it is, is the way it is and should be, and that’s just the way it is”.

Do you remember losing something or someone so precious when you were a child. Maybe if was an object “like a toy” or maybe even a piece of candy. Maybe it was something from school or a pet or family member. The more attached to that thing, pet, or person you became, the more impact the loss had on your mind and emotions at the time. The longer you are attached to something or someone, the more difficult it can be to get over or through that situation.

Heartbreak is a loss. For many it includes a loss of self-worth, identity and purpose in life. Some actually die from heartbreak and even go through many bouts and years of depression due to heartbreak. Others may take on a mental condition due to the symptoms and causes of heartbreak. It’s not easy at all. It’s not what anybody asks to feel and go through. Many even put up a wall/shield in order to never go through it or go through it again. But, that may do more harm to you in the long run regarding what’s unseen.

At the same time there is tomorrow. You must be open to transforming you mind, thoughts, words, and the world around you. You must be open to letting God work in your life in many ways. The pain is fierce at 1st and very uncomfortable. Anytime you’re stripped of something or someone that you’ve been around for awhile it’s going to hurt. You must let the pain and time flow through you. You are strong and you will get better. New time will replace old time, new thoughts will replace old thoughts, new memories will replace old memories, a new you will replace an old you, and a new he/she will replace an old he/she in due time. Although it is wise on your behalf to totally make invisible all that connected you to that person regarding objects, pictures, clothing, etc…(not the person him/herself and that’s no laughing matter), there is no way to burn or erase past thoughts and memories. There is nothing you can do in the immediate absence. As mentioned before, the pain and anguish is intense at 1st but the longer you stay gone and move on, the easier it becomes to cope with the pain. It won’t last always. Then the next thing you know, the memory and thought is just a memory and a thought without a connection to any emotion. Be as strong as you can be and always pursue somebody to just “talk” to. Rebound will hurt you and the other person involved also. That is very dangerous! I repeat, VERY DANGEROUS! Be careful and use your time wisely and make the best of the present tense and what’s in front of you in the moment.

Ironically, the same ways to cope and get through “depression” are the same ways for dealing with heartbreak. For more tips on how to deal with heartbreak, feel free to check out the blog on http://normallol.com/wp-admin/post.php?post=152&action=edit

P.S. – Always keep in mind there were 2. Each party has a story to tell and it may be neither right or wrong. Each individual whether you believe to be fair or not is entitled to his/her story or agenda and it may be neither right or wrong. Each party has a purpose and a set of feelings regarding their story and to why they feel the relationship has ended, and each person may be neither right or wrong on the matter. Each person has to deal with why things are the way they are in their own time and that is neither right or wrong.

It’s worse to force somebody to fit into the box, perspective, idea, or prism the way you want them to. That is not fair to them or you. In fact, it’s even worse for you. If the person doesn’t want you the way you are and the way you establish things to be, that too is neither right or wrong. You must move on. Always be as fair as can be and not intentionally hurtful because that is right, and the opposite unfairness and cruelty is wrong whether you choose to believe it or not. Each individual is entitled to his/her perspective on the past, present, and future circumstances. What 1 chooses to believe is neither right or wrong if that person doesn’t want to change it.

Sometimes, that’s just the way it is…